Things I wish I had known as a younger girl in the world of sex:
- Just because they’re your boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other, doesn’t mean you are obligated to have sex (or do anything) with them.
It is your choice.
- Just because you start an intimate act (oral, sex, foreplay, etc.) doesn’t mean you have to complete it.
You can change your mind midway, just communicate it to your partner. Let them know (verbal or non-verbal) that things have changed.
- Talk to someone about the good and the bad sex.
Pick a safe person, a judgement free person (i.e. best friend, sister, long distance buddy) to talk it out, air it out and let the sex-stigma go. Also in case something that you’re doing is dangerous or just a little off (and I’m not talking about kinky shit), but if something is off and you’re not sure, that person can help you talk it out.#beagoodhuman
I’ve been playing with baked good recipes to find some new options for desserts/snacks. I’ve discovered a quick and easy, yummy mini muffins. I based the recipe after the William-Sonoma banana bread recipe.
My tweaked recipe:
1 cup pancake mix
2/3 cup plant-based protein powder (vanilla flavor)
splash of vanilla extract
sprinkle of cinnamon, nutmeg, and cloves
applesauce or water or oil (to add moisture to the mix)
vegan chocolate chips (as much as you’d like for the ratios of dough to chocolate)
(my fav melty choc chips, found at my local Safeway –>
Pop them in the oven in mini cupcakes tins (spray the tins or put vegan butter on them to keep the muffins from sticking). Oven temp at 350 degrees. Bake until you can stick a knife in the middle of a thick one and it comes out clean. Cool on a rack and try not to eat them all in 10 minutes. (Been there, done that.)
Do you ever feel like you want to save the planet and all the animals in it but there are so many other fuckers who are just out there fucking it up? Yeah, me too. Does it even matter if I buy this eco/vegan-friendly whatever product since we have such bigger problems in this world? Some days I would say, no, it doesn’t matter. But other days, I would shout a hells yeah! Since today is one of the quieter days where I feel like it doesn’t matter, I’m going to remind myself (and you, reader) that it actually does make a difference.
Think of it like in gaining or losing weight (or muscle). There’s a point where suddenly everyone is like, “Oh, you’ve lost weight” or “Look at that muscle definition.” While little ol’ you has been over here eating salads for months and trying not to eat the 17th cookie. You see you everyday, so there’s no difference. But every tiny minuscule choice that you make adds up and makes the body mass you are. This is a magical thing (and also annoying) ’cause you can make a difference with one choice at a time.
Same thing with saving the planet. If you choose to buy that product that is nice to the animals and doesn’t have a whole bunch of chemical crap in it, it’s telling the market that this is what the consumer wants. So when the factories and big companies make their plans for next year’s products, they know WE want to have less chemicals, more natural ingredients, and we would rather be nice to the creatures, not use them.
All this verbage is to say, make that choice, that small tiny little choice. Then when you make 17,000 choices a day, your sending messages out there and striding down a better path.
Concrete examples of things I’ve found at Target (who doesn’t love Target?!!):
1. Compostable trash bags
Shout out to my sister for finding these!
2. Seventh generation cleaning supplies
3. S.W. Basics (make-up/skin care)
5 ingredients or less, for everything!
You know when you want a piece of cake, just ONE slice, but then you buy a whole cake and you just end up eating most of the entire thing ’cause it’s sitting on the kitchen counter whispering to you? Yeah, me too.
I stumbled upon this YouTuber Liv B and she has a yummy vegan mug cake recipe. Again, back to the whole CHOCOLATE CAN BE VEGAN thing, which blew my mind. Takes the same, super yummy and it’s just ONE SLICE. Hallelujah.
P.S. If you want to eat the whole cake, you go ahead and do it. No shame and no judgement here. My friends can attest to many nights I’ve had cake for dinner. End of story. Be free. Eat the foods you want.
4 tbsp flour of choice
2 tbsp sugar
1 tbsp cocoa
1/4 tsp baking powder
2 tsp pumpkin puree, applesauce (or oil if you don’t mind it)
1 tsp oil
4 tbsp non-dairy milk
1 tbsp non-dairy chocolate chips
Video below, start at 2:16 for the mug cake :p
So we all use it, daily. Hopefully.
I’ve discovered through trial and error and found a couple healthier, less toxic deodorants that exist in this world that don’t have aluminum in them to clog up your pores. Now why is this bad? Number one, because your pores are made to breathe, let them breathe. Number two, having aluminum that close to your lymph nodes, which are a part of the massive lymph system that helps keep you alive and not sick, is not a good thing.
This one is my favorite. It comes in different forms but keep an open mind when you first switch over. The salt stick is the one I use but apparently the roll on works just as great. The salt does not clog up the pore, so you still sweat, but it doesn’t smell. Hurray!
This one is the most similar to “regular” deodorants because it’s a waxy base and you rub it on. However, I wasn’t a huge fan of the smell, otherwise it did the job. You know when you switch perfumes or body wash and suddenly you feel like someone else is following you, then you realize it’s you that smells different? Yeah, it felt like that. It has more of a woods smell with cypress, tea tree, and cedar wood as it’s main ingredients.
Also has a similar waxy base and rub on type of vibage going on. Although Tom’s is a company I really love because their products are nice to the animals and usually vegan, this one I had a reaction too but that just might be my skin. It was a no-go for me but maybe an option for other skin types. (I’m also crazy sensitive to jewelry and such.)
When you switch over from the normal flowery high school gym room smelling deodorants to almost O-natural, let your body process the old aluminum out. It’s recommended to take a couple days and not wear anything. (You might want to do this not in the middle of summer when you’re at someone’s family BBQ.) Be gross, sweat out the aluminum, then start up using the natural one. Again, this was through trial and error. Find what you like and stick with that. Your lymph nodes will thank you and probably so will nature.